In The Supreme Court

Theresa Kaiser,        Respondent,


John Christopher Kaiser,        Appellant.

Appeal From Beaufort County
Robert S. Armstrong, Family Court Judge

Memorandum Opinion No. 2005-MO-009
Heard January 6, 2005 – Filed February 28, 2005


H. Fred Kuhn, Jr., of Moss, Kuhn & Fleming, PA, and Peter L. Fuge, both of Beaufort, for Appellant.

William Randall Phipps, of Phipps & Geis, PA, of Hilton Head Island, for Respondent.

JUSTICE WALLER:  This is a domestic case involving the custody of a minor child.  The family court judge awarded custody of the child to the mother and the father appeals.  We reverse and remand.


Theresa (“Mother”) and John Kaiser (“Father”) were married August 14, 1998. [1] The couple’s only child, Collin Kaiser (“Child”), was born September 9, 1999.  Father owns a pest control business on Hilton Head Island, and Mother did not work during the marriage after she became pregnant with Child. 

The parties separated in May 2001 and on September 7, 2001, the family court issued a Pendente Lite Order granting Wife $3,000 per month alimony, possession of the marital home, and custody of Child.  In December 2001, Father moved to terminate the alimony on the ground that Mother had engaged in adulterous conduct with two men after the commencement of this divorce action.   Mother admitted she had a sexual relationship with one of the men and alleged she has a continuing platonic relationship with the other. 

On January 17, 2002, because of the admitted adultery, the family court terminated Mother’s alimony and ordered reimbursement of the previously paid alimony.  The family court entered its final order on August 20, 2002, and awarded Mother custody of Child. Father appeals.


Did the family court err in granting custody of Child to Mother?


Father contends the family court erred in granting Mother custody of Child.  We agree. 

Where a family court order is appealed, this Court has jurisdiction to find facts based on its own view of the preponderance of the evidence. Patel v. Patel, 359 S.C. 515,  522, 599 S.E.2d 114, 118  (2004).  The paramount and controlling factor in every custody dispute is the best interest of the child.  Hooper v. Rockwell, 334 S.C. 281, 513 S.E.2d 358 (1999).  In determining the best interest of the child in a custody dispute, the family court should consider several factors, including: who has been the primary caretaker; the conduct, attributes, and fitness of the parents; the opinions of third parties (including the guardian, expert witnesses, and the children); and the age, health, and sex of the children.  Patel, 347 S.C. at 285, 555 S.E.2d at 388.

Father contends the family court erred in awarding Mother custody of Child.  Father summarizes his reasons Mother should not have been awarded custody:  “Mother 1)  has a history of substance abuse, 2) is an alcoholic, 3) is sexually promiscuous, 3) (sic) suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder, 4) has attempted suicide and threatened to commit suicide, 5) is a mother whose selfish behavior has exposed her son to various men of questionable characters, 6) lied to the court, 7) has no respect for the Court’s Orders, and 8)  moreover, this is a mother who has no respect for herself or her son.” [2]  

Without a doubt, Mother has had some emotional and mental problems. [3]   Prior to the parties’ marriage, Mother attempted suicide and was hospitalized for one night at the State Mental Hospital.  She was sexually abused as a child by her babysitters, and her psychologist, Dr. Marion O’Neill, has diagnosed her with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) caused by this abuse.  She also has been diagnosed with a histrionics type personality. [4]   She is now a recovering alcoholic and regularly attends AA. 

Both the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) and the court-appointed psychologist, Dr. David Brandt, recommended that Father be awarded custody. [5] The GAL was concerned about Mother’s relationships with men and that if Mother was given custody she would “likely limit contact with [Father] rather than seeking to expand such contact” and thus he recommended Father be granted custody.  The GAL noted that Mother had a post-separation sexual affair with Bruce Pitkin, the investigator working on this case.  Mother admitted to this relationship.  Additionally, there were allegations that Mother had a sexual relationship with Eddie Bergeron, whom she met at an AA meeting.  Bergeron and Mother deny their relationship has been sexual.  However, as the GAL noted Mother and Bergeron have taken overnight trips and spent the night together under circumstances “strongly suggesting an ongoing and romantic and sexual relationship.”  Further, Bergeron acknowledges having romantic feelings for Mother. Mother acknowledges that both men have been in the Child’s presence.

Dr. Brandt found the custody issue a close call, but he eventually recommended Father be given custody because he believed Father would be more likely to share Child with Mother.  Additionally, he was very concerned with Mother’s exposure of Child to her paramours.  Dr. Brandt was concerned about Child’s potential sense of loss when Mother stopped seeing the men. 

The family court rejected the GAL's and Dr. Brandt’s recommendations.  We recognize that rather than merely adopting the recommendation of the GAL or psychologist, the court, by its own review of all the evidence, should consider the character, fitness, attitude, and inclinations on the part of each parent as they impact the child as well as all psychological, physical, environmental, spiritual, educational, medical, family, emotional and recreational aspects of the child's life. See Woodall v. Woodall, 322 S.C. 7, 11, 471 S.E.2d 154, 157 (1996). The role of the GAL and psychologist in making custody recommendations is to aid, not direct, the court.  Ultimately, the custody decision lies with the trial judge. See Shainwald v. Shainwald, 302 S.C. 453, 395 S.E.2d 441 (Ct.App.1990) (GAL does not usurp judge's function).

 Here, the family court judge specifically stated that he placed the greatest of weight upon Mother being the primary caretaker of the child from birth. Although the family court judge recited that he had “considered the character, fitness, attitudes and inclinations on the part of each parent as they impact the child” and reviewed the expert witness reports, he does not explain why he rejects the opinions of the GAL and psychologist.  It is apparent the family court judge placed all the weight on who was the primary caretaker.  The family court judge found Wife’s conduct with her paramour to be “inappropriate and not in the best interests of the child.” Yet, he did not address this or consider Mother’s instability and continuing inappropriate behavior when he awarded custody of Child.

We have reviewed the record and determine that it is in the best interest of the Child for custody to be given to Father. The custody decision here essentially turned on the single factor of Mother having been the primary caretaker of the Child to the exclusion of the rest of the evidence in the record.  Mother has demonstrated her continuing instability and inappropriate behavior through her relationships with various men and the impact on the Child cannot be overlooked.  We agree with the GAL and Dr. Brandt that Father should be given custody of Child.  Accordingly, we reverse and remand for the family court to award custody to Father and establish visitation for Mother.



[1] Father has two children from his first marriage who live with their mother. 

[2] Mother repeatedly states in her brief that several issues are not properly before the Court.  Specifically, she alleges that Father has failed to set forth these issues in his statement of the issue on appeal pursuant to Rule 208 (b)(1), SCACR.  We disagree.  Father alleges the family court abused its discretion for numerous reasons which are clearly encompassed by the broader issue on appeal of whether the family court erred in awarding Mother custody. See Henson v. Inat’l Paper Co., 358 S.C. 133, 142, 594 S.E.2d 499, 503 (Ct. App. 2004) (distinguishing case where appellant challenged two separate rulings made by trial court). 

[3] We recognize Father also has engaged in some questionable behavior.  However, most of this behavior was prior to the birth of Child.

[4] A histrionic personality is characterized by inappropriate sexual behavior and the need to be the center of attention. 

[5] The GAL issued two reports and in both he recommended that Father be given custody of Child.